Do you ever feel like life keeps throwing the same struggles at you? Like you’re stuck in an endless cycle of frustration, sadness, or anger?
Maybe—just maybe—your body and mind are actually trying to help you heal.
Your Inner Self Wants to Heal
At our core, we are designed to heal. Our bodies, our intuition, and our emotions all work together to bring us back to balance. But here’s the catch: healing requires flow—the natural movement of energy – energy that we humans experience through emotions. And if we resist certain emotions, that energy gets stuck.
Take sadness, for example. If we learned from a young age that sadness is “bad” or “unsafe,” (which we so often do) we may unconsciously avoid it. But our body, in its infinite wisdom, still needs to release that energy. So, life presents us with situation after situation that brings up sadness—each one an invitation to finally let it flow. Yet, out of fear, we keep resisting, our fear of sadness reinforcing the belief that “life is hard.”
But our body, in its infinite wisdom, still needs to release that energy.
Manifesting the Same Struggles
This resistance creates patterns. If we believe life is a struggle, we unconsciously make choices that confirm this belief. If we think anger is dangerous, we suppress it until it explodes in unhealthy ways. If we think we’re unworthy, we attract people and situations that make us feel just that.
Sounds a little crazy, right? But survival, not logic, is often our default mode. We choose what feels “safe,” even if it’s keeping us stuck in pain.
Breaking the Cycle: A New Choice
What if, the next time you felt sadness, anger, or frustration, you didn’t resist it? What if, instead of stuffing it down or lashing out, you paused and told yourself:
“I am safe to feel this.” Because you are.
- Instead of fearing sadness, let yourself cry.
- Instead of fearing anger, acknowledge it without letting it explode – journal on the feeling; scream into a pillow.
- Instead of fearing guilt, sit with it, understand it, and forgive yourself.
Emotional Freedom Technique and Ho’oponopono are simply but extremely powerful energetic tools to aid the release and flow of any emotion that keeps appearing as a ‘trigger’.
IMPORTANT NOTE: I totally get that sometimes the circumstances do not allow the freedom or ability to react in the way needed to healthily release said emotion. Therefore in this case, take three calming deep breaths (through the nose and into the belly) and acknowledge the emotion – simply with the intention that you intend to feel it later, but for now you need to place it gently to one side). Make a note, in your calendar, on a note pad to sit with it as soon as you get the opportunity – and as close to the moment as possible. Please, please, please – do not breathe through it and then forget about it – as this is effectively suppressing the emotion, and it will simply compound what is already there.
Emotional Detox: The Side Effects
Releasing emotions after years of resistance can feel intense. You might feel more tired, experience body aches, or have waves of emotions come up unexpectedly. This is your system recalibrating. Think of it as an emotional detox—like getting rid of years of clutter to make space for peace.
And yes, people around you might resist your healing – this is in fact very likely – and triggering! If others have spent their lives avoiding emotions, seeing you embrace yours can be uncomfortable for them.
But remember, everyone is just trying to feel safe.
The Magic of Self-Kindness
At the end of the day, all people crave connection, love, and safety. The more you tell yourself “I am safe, I am loved, I love myself,” the more your body and mind will start to believe it. This belief changes everything. It shifts your energy, which changes how others respond to you. It transforms your reality from struggle to flow.
Final Thought: Love Conquers All
Healing isn’t about avoiding pain—it’s about allowing yourself to feel without fear. When you stop resisting, emotions flow through you like a river, rather than building up like a dam – the result, health and vibrancy – joy and peace.