An Energetic Guide for Beginners and the “Tried Everything” Crowd
Life can feel overwhelming. Responsibilities, social pressures, constant noise, and the weight of past experiences can leave you feeling stuck, tense, or unsure of how to move forward. Perhaps you’ve tried therapy, meditation, retreats, or self-help books—but something still feels blocked.
If this resonates, the missing piece may not be what you do externally—it’s how your energy flows internally. Learning to create inner space is about reconnecting with your body, emotions, and energy system, allowing your natural flow to guide you toward clarity, calm, and resilience.
This guide is for anyone ready to explore their energy, whether you’re a complete beginner or someone who’s tried “everything” without lasting change.
The Energetic Foundation: Why Inner Space Matters
Your body is not just flesh and bone—it’s a living energetic system. Every emotion, thought, and sensation is information moving through this system. When energy flows freely, you feel alive, present, and capable. When it is blocked or stagnant, tension, illness, mental clutter, and emotional overwhelm arise.
Think of your energy system like a river. If the water flows smoothly, life moves with ease. If debris accumulates, the river overflows or stagnates. Inner space is the clearing, the calm riverbed, that allows energy to circulate naturally.
When your energy is resisted (‘I hate this persistent shoulder ache’; ‘I’m so fed up that my sinuses are constantly playing up”‘) is becomes congested, your nervous system goes on high alert. You may notice:
- Tension in your shoulders, jaw, or gut
- Racing or repetitive thoughts
- Emotional reactivity or numbness
- Feeling “stuck” despite trying new practices
This is not a personal failing—these are signals from your energy system asking for attention and care. Creating inner space allows your energy to flow, your nervous system to settle, and your body, mind, and emotions to align.
Step 1: Safety—The Energetic Starting Point
Healing begins the moment you feel safe—safe enough to let your energy, emotions, and sensations move.
When we don’t feel safe, we suppress energy. Anger, sadness, fear, or grief are pushed down. But suppressed energy doesn’t disappear—it lingers in your body, building tension, fatigue, and sensitivity. Life mirrors this blocked energy through triggers: other people’s stress, unexpected events, or emotional waves from the world.
The first step is to signal safety to your body and energy system. This tells your nervous system that energy can move without danger.
A simple but powerful practice I lean into daily is: Stop – Hand on Heart
- Pause wherever you are—waking up, sipping tea, or entering your home.
- Take a deep breath, signaling to your body that you are safe.
- Place your hand on your heart and say quietly:
“I am here now. I am safe.”
This simple, energetic reset allows your system to release tension, even in small bursts throughout the day. Over time, you’ll notice where energy has been congested and begin to feel lighter, clearer, and calmer.
Step 2: Working With Stuck Energy
Blocked energy shows up in predictable ways:
- Physically: tight shoulders, jaw clenching, digestive discomfort, sinus congestion
- Emotionally: irritability, sadness, unexplained anger, numbness
- Mentally: racing thoughts, indecision, overwhelm
These are not problems to fix—they are messages from your energy system, guiding you to pay attention and allow movement. (If you are suffering with pain – then by all means take a tablet to ease the discomfort – but continue being aware of the energetics that are trying to move underneath that paint).
Beginner Tip: Focus on the sensations in your body rather than trying to “solve” them. When you notice tightness or heaviness, take a moment to breathe into it. Allow the energy to flow without judgment.
Step 3: Inner Space Without External Change
You really don’t need to immediately overhaul your life. Real change starts internally, not externally. Even if your environment is challenging—unsupportive relationships, demanding jobs, or high-pressure households—you can begin creating pockets of inner space.
- Set gentle but firm boundaries to protect your energy.
- Step away from external pressures if needed—temporarily or permanently.
- Create time to tune into yourself.
Remember: It takes courage to step back. Trust that the capacity to create inner space already exists within you. Compassion—for yourself and for others—is essential.
Step 4: Trusting Your Inner Voice
Many of us were never taught to trust ourselves. Parents, teachers, and society often guide us from their own fears, projecting expectations that may not align with our true path.
Your energy system knows the truth even when your mind is confused. By creating inner space, you allow your inner voice to surface:
- Notice when thoughts or pressures are not yours – you may be very surprised!
- Feel how your body reacts to different situations—it’s the most direct communication from your energy.
- Practice Stop – Hand on Heart to anchor trust and signal safety.
Learning to trust yourself is an energetic practice. It takes some time for your body to realise you are really there, and for the trust to build up – but build up it with. Consistency is key – and your clarity grows as energy flows, blocks release, and your system realigns.
Step 5: Parents and Adults—Energy Matters Across Generations
Every adult has an energetic impact on those around them. Parents carry an extra layer of responsibility, shaping the next generation through care, presence, and guidance.
- Your energy informs how children feel safe, resilient, and capable.
- Inner space allows you to model calm, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence.
- Working with your energy helps prevent unconscious transmission of unresolved emotions to your children.
Even if you are not a parent, your energy ripples outward, influencing colleagues, friends, and family. Creating inner space isn’t selfish—it’s a gift to yourself and those around you.
Step 6: Daily Practices to Cultivate Inner Space
Inner space grows through micro-practices, repeated consistently:
- Stop – Hand on Heart: Pause multiple times a day to reconnect with your energy.
- Breath Awareness: Deep, conscious breaths signal safety and encourage energy flow.
- Body Scan: Notice tension or discomfort as messages from your energy system.
- Movement: Stretch, walk, practice Qi Gong, yoga, or any activity that shifts energy.
- Reflection: Ask, Which thoughts, expectations, or pressures are truly mine?
Even a few minutes each day starts to untangle blocked energy and creates a sense of internal clarity.
Step 7: The Ripple Effect of Inner Space
When you create space inside yourself, it does more than just benefit you. Energy moves outward, subtly influencing others:
- Relationships improve because you respond rather than react.
- Children or younger adults feel safer and more supported.
- Workplaces or social environments feel calmer and more aligned.
This is the essence of energetic mastery: shifting your own energy creates tangible change around you.
Step 8: Practical Tools for Beginners
Micro-Practice Routine:
- Pause upon waking, during tea, or before entering your home
- Take 3 deep breaths, signaling safety
- Place your hand on your heart: “I am here now. I am safe.”
- Scan your body for tension and breathe into it
- Observe which pressures, “shoulds,” or expectations are truly yours
Journaling Prompts:
- Where do I feel tension or heaviness in my body today?
- Which thoughts are mine versus imposed by others?
- When did I last feel truly safe inside myself?
- How does my energy influence those around me?
Yes, it really is this simple. Simple but not always easy.
Step 9: Patience, Trust, and Compassion
Inner space is a process, not a destination. Progress is measured in small shifts:
- Trust that your inner voice is always present
- Be patient—change accumulates over time
- Practice compassion for yourself and others
Even brief pauses, breath work, and body awareness help untangle energy patterns and create a foundation for lasting change.
Step 10: Integration Into Daily Life
Creating inner space doesn’t require retreats, expensive courses, or major life changes:
- Pause before emails, meetings, or family interactions
- Breathe into tension or discomfort
- Use Stop – Hand on Heart when stress arises
- Observe your energy, emotions, and reactions
The result? Clearer decisions, calmer responses, and alignment with your inner guidance.
Final Thoughts
Inner space is your sanctuary—a place to let energy flow, emotions move, and clarity arise. It allows you to:
- Feel safe and grounded inside yourself
- Release old energy patterns that no longer serve you
- Trust your inner voice and make conscious choices
- Influence others positively through your energetic presence
Begin now: Stop. Breathe. Place your hand on your heart. Say:
“I am here now. I am safe.”
Even this small act signals your energy system that you are ready to reclaim your life, your clarity, and your inner peace.
Micro-Practice Summary:
- Stop – Hand on Heart: 30 seconds to a few minutes, multiple times daily
- Breath Awareness: Deep breaths into areas of tension
- Body Awareness: Notice where energy is blocked
- Boundaries: Protect your energy gently but firmly
- Reflection: Observe thoughts, feelings, and pressures
Even consistent micro-practices create profound energetic shifts, opening space for clarity, freedom, and resilience.